This morning my wife came rushing down the stairs and into my office. “Honey, can you help me get the kids in the car before it rains,” she said in a bit of a panic?

Now everything was okay - no one was hurt and they weren’t late getting out of the house. It’s just there was a huge thunderstorm ready to unleash it’s fury. You could feel it in the air, the winds were high, the sky that dark, bluish gray you see just before the heavens open up and drench the earth. She wanted to get in the car before it rained began falling - which began only moments later.

But my wife’s reaction caused an interesting reaction from my three year-old. Usually, A’esha loves rain and thunderstorms. But as she came down behind mom, she was terrified. And as I scooped her up and carried her to the car, she was frantic - “Daddy, get me in the car. I scared. I don’t want to get wet.” She was almost in tears, shaking.

Of course, my wife and I got both kids in the car and buckled them in just as the first huge drops of rain were pelted my back. After getting my son in the car, my wife rushed back to the house to get her purse, snacks, diaper bag - you know, the usual. I, in turn, kissed my daughter and headed for the porch.

Then I felt a twinge in my heart. I immediately turned back around and headed for the car. I jumped in the passenger’s seat just as a deluge released from the sky. I got settled and looked back at both my kids. My son was sort of in shock, not knowing what was going on. And as the first flash of lightening and crackle of thunder hit, I looked to my daughter who was still quite unsettled and scared.

It took a few minutes of discussion, a few kisses and some nuzzling, but she came out it. No longer afraid, she began down her long series of questions about the rain, the lightening, thunder, etc. And the three of us sat together, watching the rain fall and the sky flash as we waited for mom’s return.

After they left, I started thinking…What happened that made my daughter so terrified? What was going on that made her forget how much she loves storms; loves playing in the rain?

Thinking about it, it was clear that it was my wife’s reaction. The way she expressed her hurriedness of wanting to get the kids in the car, safe and dry, at the very last minute before we would all be drenched, created panic in our little girl. And if I didn’t return to the car, she would have been sitting there, scared, alone with her brother as the feeling and sounds of the storm pounded down on her little psyche.

I know I went back because she needed me. She needed me to make everything okay. She needed someone to show her she was safe and that there was really nothing to be afraid of. She couldn’t do it on her own - nor should she have too at three years-old. And in the security of her daddy, she could let it all go.

Now I’m not sharing this story to make me into a hero - nor highlight my wife’s reaction. Rather, I share this story because it dawned on me that many of us run our businesses like this. We get spooked by something. And unless we get help, we often don’t recover.

That’s why I feel it’s important to get help with your business. Not just help with marketing or strategic planning. But with your personal process around developing a business as well.

Starting a business - running a business - can be scary. What I’ve seen over the years is it’s important to work with and through our fears, our insecurities and our feelings of lack just as much as on our marketing message.

If I hadn’t returned to the car and helped A’esha, she might have internalized her fears of storms. Those fears, if not overcome, would play out in her life - they would control her to some degree.

It’s no different with your business. If you have aspects of yourself that are holding on to limiting or negative beliefs and emotions, they will manifest. They will limit success, reduce opportunities and help create chaos in your business.

My advice, get some help. Work with someone who can help you through your fears, anxieties and insecurities. I’m not talking about finding a good therapist. Rather, find a coach of some sort who specializes in helping people overcome the issues that limit their success. It will make being successful that much easier.

Hi, I’m Dawud Miracle. Professionally, I’m a blog and marketing consultant, business coach, educator and web developer who helps people use their websites to grow their business. I’m also a devoted husband and father to two, soon to be three, children. Please let me know if I can help you in any way.

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