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Over three years ago, I went to a sales training that forever changed me as a person - I experienced a radical transformation from inner negativity and emptiness to living my life as an example and filled with light. Long story short, that weekend gave me one of those life-altering experiences that permanently put me on a path to live up to my full potential.

At that time, my relationship with my husband was shaky. My newfound sense of confidence was a bit threatening to him. The years went on - I kept growing in leaps and bounds. He started digging in his heels. We grew farther and farther apart.

The stress on our relationship really started taking it’s toll. His drinking, which had been a problem already, started spiraling out of control. I kept raising my standards, and the chasm between us also grew farther and farther apart.

But the real problem was the internal chasm I was beginning to experience. Here I was, a success at the Director level of a dot-com, a coach with Anthony Robbins & Associates, and a role model for my children - married to a drunk. The incongruency I began to feel in living my own life was the most disturbing of all.

My coach at the time had a favorite quote - but it took him saying it several times before I actually heard it:

“The amount of success you will achieve in business or in life is in direct proportion to the standards that you are willing to hold yourself to - or those that you are willing to settle for.”

For years I had raised my standards in every area of my life, and the level of positive action I was able to take across the board had increased my quality of life as well. I had even raised my standards in my marriage - I expected more responsibility and accountability from my husband, and I knew I deserved a better life for both myself and my children.

But I had still been willing to settle for the drunk.

Last year, I finally got it. I decided I was no longer willing to settle for less than everything I wanted in a marriage - not a perfect marriage - but a healthy, loving, sober marriage with a man who respected and loved himself as much as he did me.

It was a painful transition to be sure - but once I upped my ‘marital bottom line’, everything shifted - and I am happy to report today that my husband is about as incredible of a husband as you will find on this planet. And our marriage is extraordinary.

So what does this have to do with business and entrepreneurship?

Well, based upon several strong suggestions lately, I picked up Seth Godin’s new book The Dip. The chasm I experienced between that sales seminar and being married to the man of my dreams definitely qualifies as a damn big DIP in my life.

And lately, I’ve been experiencing a bit of a business Dip. I had several well-intentioned readers ask a very good question:

Wendy, if you are already a successful blogger, why do need to grow?

Why do you want more?

I had a hard time articulating my answer to that one for a few days - because sure I’d like more money, more visitors, and a higher Technorati rank - but I would be fine without all of those things, except for just one thing:

I was put on this earth to be astonishing. And I don’t dare to waste that. This blog and I have the power to change the lives of millions of parents. To create remarkable content, products and services. To over-deliver. And to be the best in the world.

I am quoting Seth’s words - but it’s the next sentence that brings the entire last three weeks into business perspective:

How dare I squander that resource [me] by spreading it too thin.

In short, I have settled for less than what I am capable of thus far. And I risk squandering it by being stretched to my limits. I’m currently in what Seth would call a Conceptual Dip. And I will do whatever it takes to get to my goal.

What’s that goal?

To get in front of every single weary, dissatisfied, under-earning parent who is clinging to an ordinary, safe, and soul-crushing life and let them know that it is never too late to go after your entrepreneurial dreams, and that each of us were put on this planet to do great things.

To let them know that if they can get to a computer, they can build a better life for themselves and their families.

And that they can come from humble beginnings and live to change lives. Even if you’re homeless, chronically depressed, and have no business experience.

Although I’m still working through the reinvention of the eMoms brand so to speak, I am not quitting in the middle of my Dip.

I chose to be exceptional.

I will not settle for average.

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